Fine line between Flirting and Thirsting?

Social media has been a wonderful tool in the 21^st century. I’ve written before about the positives of the way that it allows fans of folks who work in the adult industry. It has been a boon.

One of the places I find myself struggling at times, though, is when it comes to compliments and innuendo. Again, a topic that I have espoused theories about in the past, so it’s slightly trodden ground.

But the place I am coming from today is the external perception that you can face from others if you go too far.

In other words, there is a fine line between flirty and thirsty.

What do I mean by thirsty? I mean being one of those guys who fawns too far over the women he’s trying to talk to in the industry, almost appearing to be begging for something that, quite frankly, you are not going to get.

I catch myself at times. Maybe it’s my own self-awareness being tuned too high. Maybe it’s because I feel I’ve crossed the line too often and have found myself sending DMs or emails or texts to make sure I didn’t push things.

And sometimes I find myself wondering if I managed to take a friendly-ish association with some of the performers I’ve grown close-ish with and crossed over the line where I’ve become one of those dudes that they resent.

Obviously I play things off with an “LOL” or a “j/k”. But I do find myself wondering if constant references and jokes can have a wearing thin effect.

Look, I do things like the “Lust List” and I obviously write reviews (when I have time) and watch and buy whatever porn and scenes I can when I can afford to. And I like to think I am flirting (poorly) without the expectation of anything actually happening with the women I am communicating with.

Then again, maybe the neurotic part of me is overthinking this and I really am okay.

Either way, I might need to start pulling back on the flirting before I get called thirsty.