Where the fat guys at?

It’s kind of funny, but I’ve been giving a lot of thought to the concept of double standards recently – especially when it comes to the world of sex.

Really, what I’m thinking about now, and what this post is about, is wondering why there aren’t really guys that look like me in porn anymore.

(Yes, I know that in gay porn there are videos available with fat and chubby guys. I’m speaking here about hetero porn.)

I am far from a hard-body; soft-bodied would definitely be the appropriate definition for me. You know who I am. I’m the kind of guy that would wear a shirt that says, “I’m in shape. Round is a shape.”

Yes, I am fat. F-A-T fat. The term “a little extra padding” would be inaccurate. “Fluffy” is another euphemism that COULD be applied to me. I prefer the term “Big Handsome Man (BHM) myself.”

But the labeling terminology is beside the point.

The point that has led me here is thinking about where are the fat guys in porn?

Yes, yes, I know: there’s Ron Jeremy.

However, has Ron actually made a film in years? And while I have much respect for the Hedgehog, I view him as more anathema and a pop culture icon/porn relic than someone who is actually active in the game today.

So I reiterate: why don’t you see fat guys in porn?

If porn, on some level, is supposed to appeal to the fantasies that live inside my head, then why can’t I have someone who looks like me appear in the films?

It’s easier for me to live a fantasy if I can imagine myself as I am fucking a beautiful woman. In my own brain, I can fuck a gorgeous woman in spite of my physical limitation; not because I suddenly developed a six pack where my keg currently resides.

To further complicate matters, I am a BHM that loves me some BBW porn. Well, I’ve heard it mentioned other places that no one wants to watch two fat people fuck. It looks like waves on the ocean, and rippling flesh and blah, blah, blah.

I still think that that’s bullshit. If the attention is focused on the woman (as I think it should be), then a big, agile guy can and should be able to perform the maneuvers that will satisfy what the director is looking for.

Yes, there are issues for some overweight guys with regards to maintaining an erection.

You know what, though? I’ve watched plenty of scenes that featured guys at half-mast lamely attempting to get through the scene.

Sometimes I’ve seen those limp dicks taking up screen time with a BBW.

Now, given the choice, wouldn’t it make for a better scene to have a BHM and a BBW who are grooving on each other and getting into it than some guy who views fucking a BBW as a way to pay the rent that month?

It’s not like you have to rig special equipment and hire seismologists to film a scene with a fat guy in it where he’s not viewed as a freak of nature.

Hell, I remember when BBW porn was classified (occasionally) as being under the “freaks” section of porn aggregator websites.

Maybe the day will come when BHM can be viewed as sexy, satisfactory costars for women of all shapes and sizes.

Of course, when that day comes, I’ll be ready for my closeup.